Was talking to a friend about the story about the leaf, the tree and the wind the other day.
The leaf naturally would stick to its tree, and the tree would never bother noticing the leaf because there are so many leaves around. The leaf hoped for a long time that one day the tree would notice, but that never quite happened at all. Eventually the cold weather came along and the wind while flying near the tree came in contact with the leaf. For the first time, the leaf was noticed, not by the tree but by the wind. Feeling disheartened with the passivity of waiting for the tree to respond, the leaf eventually came off the tree and followed the wind, never to return to that tree.
Kinda sad isn't it? But I think it kind of reflects how relationships are. One starts out feeling idealistic, looking out for the one and only, but eventually after several exploits, sheds that coat of idealism and eventually settles for the most convenient source of security one could possibly find.
Several sources got me musing recently about the leaf, tree and wind scenario. Someone wrote that when romance dies away in a relationship, people still stay together because after all that time, they've become so familar with each other that it becomes highly uncomfortable for either party in the event of a break-up. I wonder if that's the correct approach though.
Another friend of mine then told me about the concept of a "comfort zone". We are, as I have shown before, conflicting creatures and this naturally extends to our comfort zones. There is always the conflict of the fear of being not close enough and the loathe of being too close to another. The fear perhaps comes a sheer want of security, to know that should one breathe his last that very day, someone will remember him. The loathe would come from a want of excitement and change in one's life, as well as a need for personal space I suppose.
This tallies up to quite a sad result because either we have former or the latter and the relationship is halfway on the rocks and often people don't quite know how the balancing thingy works(well, at least in my opinion many people don't.)
One question came to mind, among others after listening to this story - how would the tree feel after the leaf flew off with the wind? Non-chalant? Or is there an alien sense of loss? Hmmm.
Bleah, haha enough musing already, well, since we are talking about leaves, I shall put up this song called Ye Zi.
(PS: Tiffy, you should like this one since you're watching the Cai Wei Zhi Lian ;p)
叶子
阿桑
曲：陈晓娟 | 词：陈晓娟 | 编：
叶子 是不会飞翔的翅膀
翅膀 是落在天上的叶子
天堂 原来应该不是妄想
只是我早已经遗忘
当初怎么开始飞翔
孤单 是一个人的狂欢
狂欢 是一群人的孤单
爱情 原来的开始是陪伴
但我也渐渐地遗忘
当时是怎样有人陪伴
我一个人吃饭 旅行 (到处)走走停停
也一个人看书 弹琴 自己对话谈心
只是心又飘到了哪里
就连自己看也看不清
我想我不仅仅是失去你
