It's sad everytime when you have to tell a young, innocent and optimistic soul how the harsh realities of life just don't allow us to choose what we really want sometimes.
(Ok, I'm sounding like my granny..)
Like how wonderful it would be if we could all realise our dreams and aspirations? But then sometimes reality steps in (and it will usually do so when it comes to the bigger decisions in life, if you happen to notice) and says a stern "no" to us and we are left helpless, choiceless, like the daughter of a traditional chinese family already promised in marriage to some unknown man she has absolutely no feelings for. Her only way out is suicide I feel, that is, if she has the nerves for it and if that was a practical way to change the situation at all.
(yeah, just try imagine a chinese lady with dainty feet trying valiantly to throw the cloth onto the pillar in order to hang herself. She probably trip herself to death instead hahaha...ahem. yeah call me sadistic. )
For me, I guess I have gotten kinda immune to the realities of life, that things will hardly,if ever, turn out the way you wish it would, that sometimes people are not that simple to understand, that certain things just have to be done whether you like it or not. So I just live and let live at most times(unless something or someone drives me to the limit.) It's rather passive, sometimes to the point of being unhealthy emotionally for me I think, but I can't think of a better way to live and be happy.
While being seemingly passive about all the crashing debri of life that falls on a daily basis, I guess I do try to create dreams out of the harsh realites of life for self-comfort.
Self-deception is a very very handy skill to acquire(yeah that part I know I do very well, and on a frequent basis too). I don't know but maybe it's like when you are a kid who grows up next to a ex- mine field that is so dangerous and people get killed daily walking around it. You see the horrors so much that you get immune to it, and then maybe after a long time, you realise that "hey, it's actually quite fun to try to avoid getting killed!". Of course the reality is that everytime you take one step, you're saying your prayers to every single higher being you possibly can think of and feeling relieved that you are still alive. But I guess self-induced entertainment can sometimes mitigate the harshness of a situation. I don't know about other people, but so far, it works for me at least.
Well, for all the people currently suffering under any kind of circumstances, just decieve yourself for a bit yeah.
We are married to reality but we could still have affairs with our dreams just to make ourselves feel better about things
I'm quoting myself... hahaha... oh god what an ego I have...